Stones of Remembrance Because I Love Him: Mommy Jewellery
Once we came home from the hospital, after the birth of our little Shiloh I immediately felt a lack or as if something had been taken from me. One of my good college friends mentioned that when she had two miscarriages she did little practical things to help her feel like she was remembering her baby. That really made sense to me, she mentioned an orchid (which I love) and also that she had some jewellery made. I knew that I had to do that too.
I have never been a fan of wearing this type of thing, it just never seemed to fit. Now I knew things had changed. I looked at different items on Etsy and narrowed it down to two. So I got them both, that is how I roll. I didn't want to leave the house until they came....it was a good thing they shipped really fast and now I can breathe more comfortably.
This one arrived first,a necklace I ended up getting it from SilverLime, I love it. This is just for Shiloh, just because. The number 12.1.12 is the 12th of January 2012-- it is the European order for the date, smallest to biggest, it makes more sense to me.
I had to wait a little longer to get what I was most excited about, a set of three rings from tinahdee an Etsy seller. She did not disappoint, these rings are even more beautiful and perfect than I had expected. I was a little worried about the fit, as I have a super small size and ring people always look at me like I am nuts when I tell them I wear a 4.5 but she didn't and when they arrived I slipped the rings right on and haven't taken them off since (well, maybe except for taking these pictures).
I wanted something that reminded me of Shiloh, as well as reminding me that I still have two little boys to love on. The boys thought that was a good idea too.
Honestly at this point I wouldn't want to leave the house without either. I am feeling much better than in the first days, still that aching is there- and these remind me that it isn't because I am just odd, but that someone is really missing from me here on earth. This mommy jewellery is my security blanket, and I am okay with that.
If you haven't read the story our our little Shiloh, read here.
I have been playing this one over and over....so I will leave you to it.
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January 31st, 2012 - 20:53
I love this idea.
January 31st, 2012 - 21:43
This seems perfect. What beautiful and perfect pieces.
Mothers Day 2011 David bought me a necklace from Etsy similar to yours with our boys names (well, what they legally WILL be…soon) and their dates of birth. It is a security blanket for me in a different way. Although they were not, and still not, our legal children, I longed so deeply for that and the necklace helps me feel as though they belong. I belong. We belong. Together. Although God is directing the path of the adoption and always had arrange it for us to be a family, it is nice to see their names written. It is nice to wear their names. It seems more personal. More intimate. More concrete. More real. As silly as it sounds, I felt more confident as I wore it. And…my little reader thought it was really special that Mommy had his name close to her heart. He is a part of me…
January 31st, 2012 - 21:56
Beautiful jewelry. I think it’s perfect.
January 31st, 2012 - 22:15
beautiful. love it. simple and very sweet. love you guys!
January 31st, 2012 - 22:50
They’re perfect. You’ve made me want some. I keep thinking that I’ll do it when our family is complete. And I put it off, wondering if we’ll adopt some day. But, why wait?
January 31st, 2012 - 23:30
They are both wonderful!
February 1st, 2012 - 00:16
Perfect. Beautiful, perfect. Thank you for your open, transparent heart, Bethany – your honesty in these last couple of weeks has been incredible.
February 1st, 2012 - 05:24
they both are wonderful and I can see why you take comfort in them. However, you don’t need to worry that you will forget. I think that is one of the gifts of pain, you will remember. I’m praying that someday soon, you will remember with joy.
February 1st, 2012 - 08:52
They are beautiful and perfect. ((HUGS))
February 1st, 2012 - 10:56
Hey Bethany, I am touched by your story and your willingness to share it. It is an incredible gift you give by choosing to do so and you will never know whom you’ve impacted. I’m just honored and humbled to be a small part of your journey. Thanks.
February 1st, 2012 - 12:35
I think it’s wonderful, Bethany. The jewelry is beautiful and a wonderful everyday reminder and remembrance. Thanks for sharing these. :)
February 1st, 2012 - 16:03
Very sweet jewelery! Okay, I’m trying to figure out what the 12.1.12 is? Just because I’m curious. You don’t have to share anything though. I’m glad you post because it reminds me to pray :)
February 5th, 2012 - 19:35
ooops, silly me. i didn’t see your sentence at the top. i like that a lot.
February 10th, 2012 - 23:48
Hi Bethany, You do not know me, but I discovered your blog a while back and, well, I just want you to know my heart is aching for you and your family. In the middle of the night, I find myself crying and praying for you. I know that sometimes losing a child can feel like such a lonely grief. I guess that I just want you to know that you have sisters in the faith that love you (though they have never met you) and that understand your grief and are praying for you. By the way, I love your mommy jewelry. I got mommy jewelry when I lost my baby, too. : )